How to Stop Overthinking

Overthinking is a common challenge many people face, myself included. It involves analyzing situations excessively, worrying about the past and/or future and getting caught up in a loop of what-ifs and should-haves. While thinking critically and planning ahead can be beneficial, overthinking often leads to stress, anxiety and the inability to make a decision due to too many options (aka decision paralysis). It can prevent us from living in the moment and taking decisive action. Fortunately, there are strategies to help minimize this habit and bring more peace and clarity into our lives.

Recognize When You’re Overthinking

The first step to stopping overthinking is awareness. You need to recognize when you’re doing it. This can appear as replaying conversations in your mind, second-guessing decisions and/or creating worst-case scenarios. Once you’re aware of these patterns, you can begin to address them. A good way to start is by paying attention to your thoughts throughout the day. If you notice a negative or anxious thought pattern, acknowledge it without judgment (easier said than done, I know) and make a mental note of what triggered it.

Challenge Your Thoughts

Often, overthinking is fueled by irrational beliefs or assumptions (perfectionism, feeling unlovable, etc.). When you catch yourself spiraling, take a step back and challenge these thoughts. Ask yourself if there is evidence to support them or if you’re jumping to conclusions. For example, if you’re worried about a presentation at work, remind yourself of the times you’ve successfully presented in the past. By questioning the validity of your thoughts, you can reduce their power over you.

Set Aside ‘Worry Time’

One strategy, though it may sound counterintuitive, is setting aside a specific time each day to worry. By designating 10-15 minutes to let your mind run free with all its worries and concerns, you can prevent these thoughts from intruding on the rest of your day. When a worry pops up outside of this time, remind yourself that you’ll address it during your ‘worry time.’ Over time, this practice can help you gain control over your thoughts and reduce their frequency and intensity.

Focus on What You Can Control

Overthinking often revolves around situations and/or outcomes beyond our control in an attempt to feel more secure. To break this cycle, focus on what you can control. Make a list of actionable steps you can take in the present moment. For example, if you’re worried about an upcoming job interview, you can’t control the interviewer’s reaction but you can prepare by researching the company and practicing your answers for common interview questions. Shifting your focus to things you can control helps you feel more empowered and reduces anxiety.

Practice Mindfulness and Meditation

Mindfulness is the practice of being fully present in the moment without judgment. It can be a powerful tool for stopping overthinking. When you find yourself caught in a thought loop, take a few deep breaths and bring your attention back to the present. Focus on your breathing (more on that here. I highly recommend box breathing by the way), the sensations in your body or the sounds around you. Meditation can also help train your mind to stay present and reduce the tendency to overthink. Even just a few minutes a day can make a huge difference.

Limit Exposure to Triggers

Certain situations or people may trigger your overthinking. Identifying these triggers can help you manage them more effectively. If you notice that you overthink after spending time on social media, consider limiting your use. If certain conversations or people cause you to spiral, set boundaries (you can learn more about doing that here) or limit your exposure. By being proactive about avoiding or managing triggers, you can reduce the likelihood of falling into overthinking patterns.

Engage in Activities That Distract Your Mind

Engaging in activities that require concentration can help distract your mind from overthinking. Exercise, hobbies or tasks that require focus can provide a healthy outlet for your energy and attention. Physical activity, in particular, has been shown to reduce anxiety and improve mood, making it an excellent way to counteract overthinking. My personal favourite is diamond art. When your mind is occupied with something enjoyable or challenging, there’s less room for unnecessary worry.

Talk it Out

Sometimes, talking through your thoughts with a trusted friend or therapist can help you gain perspective and clarity. This strategy is my go to. For some reason, verbalizing and hearing your concerns can help you see them more objectively and reduce their intensity. A supportive listener can offer reassurance, challenge irrational thoughts and provide helpful advice or a different perspective. Don’t be afraid to reach out for support when you need it.

Practice Self-Compassion

Overthinking often comes from a place of fear or insecurity. Practicing self-compassion involves treating yourself with the same kindness and understanding you would offer a friend. Though this is definitely easier said than done when you’re spiralling, remind yourself that everyone makes mistakes and has moments of doubt. Instead of criticising yourself for overthinking, acknowledge your feelings and offer yourself reassurance and encouragement. Over time, this compassionate approach can reduce the anxiety that fuels overthinking.

Take Action

One of the best ways to stop overthinking is to take action. Overthinking often results from a fear of making the wrong decision or a desire to avoid uncertainty. However, taking decisive action can break the cycle of rumination. Start small by taking one step toward your goal or decision (for tips on goal setting, click here). Even if it’s not perfect, taking action helps build momentum and confidence. As you begin to see progress, your mind will be less likely to get stuck in overthinking mode.

Overthinking is a habit that can be challenging to break but with practice and persistence, it’s possible to reduce its hold on your life. By recognizing when you’re overthinking, challenging your thoughts, focusing on the present and taking action, you can create a more peaceful and balanced mindset. Remember, it’s not about eliminating all worries or thoughts but learning to manage them in a way that enhances your well-being and allows you to live more fully.

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